Kissing is that first foray into a relationship, the first step in opening ourselves up to another. Relationships are complicated, both those of the romantic nature and those of the platonic. Deciding if you want to take a relationship to the "next level" can be heart wrenching. Opening your heart and soul to another is intimate, exciting, and frightening.
When we are young, we anxiously await our first kiss, that first connection with another human that we aren't related to. Often these first connections are found behind shrubs, buildings, nooks and crannies hidden away for these private meetings.
Our first real relationship, where you begin to open your heart, should involve a lot of kissing. I think of my own teenage years, where hand holding a kissing were signs of a relationship. Now, sadly, many young people engage in far more advanced methods of connections, often sexual acts that have now been marginalized as entries into a relationship. Kissing, deep and full kissing, is often not a part.
Kissing, that connection that we have with others, is often under appreciated. It doesn't have to be romantic kissing, but kissing to those we have other types of connections with, our children, our friends. In other countries, it is common to kiss others on the mouth, a practice not regularly performed in the United States...you might wonder why...it's because of the intimacy of it all. Many Americans don't feel comfortable performing such an "intimate act" with others.
I am a kisser, luckily, I married a kisser...we kiss our children, on the lips, regularly. My husband is from another country which makes his kissing others acceptable, but some people look at me and it doesn't make sense, but I'm a kisser never-the-less. My youngest son and I have regular kiss-fests...when I come home from work, before he goes to bed. It is an intimate time when I feel the most connected to him. My heart and my feelings are being transmitted to him and accepted.
I will continue to kiss and profess to others the importance of kissing. Kissing is crucial, it is the transmission of love. Every time you kiss another, think of its importance...how you are sharing love and affection to another...through the simple act of kissing.