Finding your person...
So here I was tonight, as their two handsome sons walked their mother down the aisle to their smiling, waiting father, at the marriage of these two people who are reaping the rewards of their work. They are reuniting their family, showing the fruits of their labor, that love really can really conquer all, if you are committed to it.
I looked at pictures of their high school smiling faces looking up at me and saw that fresh face love of teenagers and then looked at their faces tonight and saw that same love shining from their eyes. To have that person, the one that you can count on, cry to, hold is so important. We all need to have our person. For my friend...that person has always been him and now they get to celebrate for the rest of time.
Each of us has a place in our lives where we put our person. They might change as our life moves forward...sometimes it's our spouse, sometimes not. I think of my own life and see that my person has changed throughout the years, as I have grown and changed. When I was in high school, my person was my girlfriend across the street. For two years, we talked, hung out, shared, but that didn't continue as the college years came...possibly because I moved away, but more, I think, because of my inability to really open myself deeply to someone else.
Having a person, for me, is difficult. Due to the chaos of my younger years, making concrete attachments with others can be challenging. I work hard at it. I don't like the fact that I can essentially walk away from a relationship without looking back. Not a part of my personality I love, but sadly, it's there. Anyway...as I have grown, I have allowed myself to really find my person. It is important to have one...someone you can be genuinely you with. Someone who can see all the parts of you that you don't want to share, the gory details, and still love you.
Why do we need this? So we have the opportunity to be real. Friendships sometimes require us to keep a portion of ourselves back. Something hidden for personal safety. We don't want everyone to know everything about us. There are parts of our lives that we prefer to keep under the radar. Having a person helps to open those closets and let the skeletons roam free for a bit. We need that chance to air out.
Having a person is good for our soul. It allows us to be free, to rest, to find peace. If we are constantly trying to keep buried the ugly parts of ourselves, it is exhausting, but by allowing our person permission to look deep into our soul, knowing that there will be no judgement, brings peace. We all deserve peace in our lives, so whatever is good for your soul....do that!