That's totally unexpected..

Ever have times in your life when things that are completely unexpected happen? In my life, there have been so many times when I reflect back and say, "Wow..that was totally unexpected." Today, it was a little thing. My youngest, who was admitted to the hospital yesterday for a MRI to rule out a bone infection was sent home today, as planned. This was, to my memory, the first time that we ever came home at the expected time. Every other time, we came for a few days and stayed for a few months. As we were packing up, I had that thought, "This is totally unexpected."

I think over many events in my life and look at those that seemed to come out of thin air. When I was married to my ex-husband, I applied for my first job at the middle school where our good friend (who was living with us at the time) had attended. I got the job and we soon were adopted by his family. Totally unexpected.

When we moved to California because my ex-husband was in the military, I ended up getting a job, we separated, and I met the second love of my life. I wish I could say exactly where I met him, but I think it was in a bar. Not glamorous, but definitely unexpected.

When I met my husband, it was at the soccer field. He ran me over, but stopped, apologized, and helped me up. All parts of that were unexpected (meeting him, him stopping, and definitely him helping me up. Men just don't do that in co-ed soccer.) How was I to know that marrying him would forever alter the direction of my life (and our other children's)?

I met my three of closest girlfriends in very different places. One was by playing soccer together (hard to believe that it's been 17 years!), one while working at an OMSI camp (that was 12 years ago), and one at work (a lifetime ago!). These three women have nurtured me when I needed it, been my shoulder to cry on, listened to me rant, and supported me through all my insanity and beyond. They are the ones who keep me grounded. Never would I have expected to be so lucky.

Joining Facebook, which I know is the bane of many people's existence, has re-introduced me to a variety of high school friends and oddly, my best friend from when I was five. That is the definition of totally unexpected!

Having my youngest son, having him survive all that he has, and my marriage staying intact. For those who know anything about having a child with a terminal and chronic disease, this is definitely unexpected.

Two years ago when I chose not to fight the school district about my youngest son's change of school, how was I to know that we would essentially be adopted into a special family who's daughter took my youngest under her wing and stands for him daily. She's his best friend and protector. More than expected!

My grandfather passing away just two hours after leaving with a clean bill of health was totally unexpected.

I could go on and on, but I won't, about life bringing you what you need, sometimes before you even know you need it. Life is the unexpected. I am blessed...I have wonderful friends, a wonderful family. Sometimes it is our duty to bring that unexpected to others. Think about a life where nothing unexpected happens. The sheer boredom of the predictability could make you want to curl up and cry. The joy of life (and sometimes the sorrow) are those unexpected events. They keep us on our toes, our minds sharp, and ready. Imagine the excitement if you could be the creator of another's "totally unexpected." Imagine the delight you might bring. Commit yourself to be a "fairy of unexpectedness" and I promise, you will reap the joy, because sometimes giving someone something unexpected brings you joy that is unexpected too!


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